FAITHFUL & TRUE - ATLANTA

2312 Peachford Rd., Suite C

Atlanta, GA 30338

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The Trauma of Betrayal

The discovery of sexual addiction in your marriage and family is a traumatic event.  Research shows that 70% of spouses develop symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder upon discovery of sexual acting out.  The discovery of affairs, pornography, or any other form of sexual integrity issue creates a sense of loss in the relationship.  The devastation and grief experienced by those married to people with sexual integrity issues can be overwhelming.  It’s not uncommon to experience depression, anxiety, and physical symptoms.  Your world has been turned upside down.  Shock, anger, fear hopelessness, pain, and overwhelming frustration may dominate your thoughts and feelings.  Help is available - even if your spouse refuses to deal with his/her problem.  You can heal, regardless of what the addict in your life chooses to do.

Breaking the Cycle

Many spouses suffer in shame and silence as they cope with the impact of sexual betrayal on their marriage and family life.  Without treatment, the entire family can be victimized by this destructive cycle for generations. 

Why Should a Spouse Seek Help?

Spouses and family members are severely wounded by the devastation of sexual addiction.  If you are the passenger in an automobile accident, you may not have been responsible for the wreck, but you still seek treatment for your injuries.  In the same way, you didn’t cause your husband / wife to make the choices he/she made, but you have experienced the pain and trauma.  Healing is important for you, regardless of what the addict in your life chooses.  Going through a healing process as a spouse is a critical part of breaking the cycle in your family.  It’s important to model self-care for your children and to be equipped to deal with the impact of sexual addiction on your family.  S.A.R.A.H. groups for spouses provide a safe place for you to heal.

Groups

S.A.R.A.H. groups develop the foundation of recovery for men, women, and spouses.  These groups provide a support network to begin the journey of recovery from sexual addiction and co-addiction. These groups help identify the roots of the addiction and establish a solid plan for lifelong recovery.

Common Symptoms of Spouses of Addicts

NOt all spouses of sex addicts are “codependent.” Most spouses feels that they are alone and have no safe place to turn.  These symptoms may be things you are experiencing.  NOt all spouses experience all of these, but many of them are common.

1. Do you have financial problems because of a spouses sexual acting out?

 

2. Do you tell lies to cover up for some else’s sexual behavior?

 

3. Do you think that you are responsible for the behavior of your spouse?

 

4. Do you make threats and not follow through with them? 

5. Are you afraid to upset your partner for fear that he/she will leave you?

 

6. Have you been wounded, hurt, or embarrassed by the addicts behavior?

 

7. 7.Do you find yourself searching for hidden clues that might be related to the
   

8. sexual behavior of a loved one?
   

 

8. Are you preoccupied or obsessed with the addicts problems?

 

9. 9.Are you being sexual with an addict to prevent him/her from being
   

10. sexual with others?
    

 

10. Do you find yourself engaging in self-defeating or degrading behavior?

 

11. 11.Do you blame yourself for the addicts problems?  Do you believe that if you looked better, lost weight, had plastic surgery, etc.. that this would solve the addicts problem?
    

 

12. Do you feel alone in your problem?